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This is the summary of what was discussed:
(Items in italics are added in by Brenda Tan after the meeting.)
|Plan a simple weekly after school timetable with your child.
Include breaks/naps and snack time
No gadgets during work time
|It is important to have your child plan their timetable with you rather than you give them schedule. Planning the timetable together will allow them to have greater ownership of their time. Also, they learn to have the habit of time management.
Try to keep to the schedule set, although this may be frustrating initially. Habits take time to set, but it gets easier once the routine is formed.
|Create a filing system.
Teach your child to use an accordion file to sort out the worksheets and papers from school.
All homework should be placed in the same slot to be completed, and returned to the same slot to be handed in the next day.
School notices should be kept in a slot by itself.
Returned worksheets should be removed from the file and kept at home.
|Create a reward system.
Have a clear reward chart, with achievable goals.
Reward for completing past year school exam papers.
Rewards can include use of mobile phone, watching tv, or computer games.
|Setting achievable goals are important, otherwise it may discourage the child to work towards the goal.|
Remove favourite toys.
Return when good.
|Timer: Keeping track of time.
Use a countdown timer to help your child be aware of time that has passed.
A kitchen timer is useful as a countdown timer at home.
Use the timer in a variety of ways – see how many questions your child can do in 10 minutes, and then have a chart to see if he can improve on that score.
Use it as a reminder that certain sections of the exam paper need to be competed by a certain time and to move on if he hasn’t competed the section.
Use it simply as a timer in conjunction with the time-table.
|The W200 S Women And Children Digital Timer Sport Watch, retailing for S$15.90 at Decathlon.
It’s the only countdown timer watch I managed to find this price point.
|Mindful that the boys are adapting
New time table
Behaviour and expectations
|Children learn better when self-motivated.|
|A parent accompanies the child when doing homework.||Help the child see that learning is not an isolated activity and that you’re also a learner.
Pick up a hobby that can be done while the children are doing their homework.
|Bite-sized learning esp. for Chinese.
Read more Chinese books.
Also look for Chinese resources like YouTube videos with good Chinese language appropriate for kids.
|Life action movie based on Disney’s Mulan, with Simplified Mandarin subtitles. (There’s a version with both English and Mandarin subtitles, but watching that might cause the kids to only read the English subtitles.)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VT9V_hHPYhMThe channel has more such movies which are targetted at children and are a good resource for listening and reading the Chinese texts.
|Parents to have close communication with child’s teachers.
Monitor the homework channels of the class for work to be completed.
Email or call the teacher if you have queries. Don’t assume that the teacher knows what you are concerned about.
Let the teacher know to look out for your child if they are facing some personal or emotional difficulties, eg death of a pet, so that the teacher can help support your son.
Making the learning appropriate and enough for the kids. Some kids can do more drills, others don’t need as much.
Insist on quality work over quantity work.
|Use the school values and school song.
The school song says “time for work and time for play”, so work comes first.
The school song also says “truest fame lies in high endeavour”, a reminder that hard work is important.
The school values of TRUE WISE:
|Communicate with your child
Monitor our communication with our children – how much time is given to talking about schoolwork, their hobbies, what they enjoy doing, etc. If the communications with our children weigh too much on schoolwork, then the child might feel that that’s the only thing you care about your child.
Brightly lit area, table and chairs at comfortable height for the child, quiet space to encourage focus and concentration.
Get 2 sets of stationery — one for school use and one for home use. This way he is unlikely to “forget” to pack his stationery for school.
For lower primary school boys, it is not advisable to use mechanical pencils because the 0.5 tips are quite sharp, and erasing these may be difficult. Get the 1.3 or 0.7 mechanical pencils instead, as these make a thicker line and are much easier to erase.
For lower primary students, don’t wait until just before the spelling test to learn spelling. Write the words on cards and paste them where the kids can see them every day. Test the kids a few days before the test and get them to correct those they got wrong. Repeat it the next day, until the spelling day itself. This will get easier once the child has a habit of studying for spelling.
There are spelling Apps like SpellBoard which allows you to input the spelling words and have your child listen and write or type in the answer.
There are Chinese Apps for tracing character strokes, but I’m not sure if there are those that allows you to input the words for learning. Nonetheless, learning the correct character strokes can help the child memorise characters better.
The Junior Saints Mums met as a group for the first time on Thursday, 25 January at the SASS’s Centre of Excellence classroom.
The JS Mums were clearly excited to meet and even before the session began, the mothers were engaged in trading stories of their sons’ first weeks of adventures in school.
The meeting began with an introduction by Mrs Deborah Wang, who explained that the group was set up to provide Junior Saints Mums a space to support each other on their mothering journey. The facilitator, Mrs Brenda Tan, then got the 22 mothers to share a little more about themselves, their children, and what they felt the motherhood journey meant to them.
It surprised some mothers in the group that there were mothers who have more than 3 children, some mothers with boys in both the primary and secondary schools, and even mothers in the junior school with children in their early 20s! Indeed, it was assuring to know that there was a good diversity in the motherhood experience in the room – full-time-working mothers, part-time-working mothers, stay-at-home mothers, and work-from-home mothers. What they all had in common were the love they have for their children and one of their kids being in the junior school.
The main topic of discussion was sharing personal strategies for helping our children to complete their homework and revision at home in a timely manner. There were stories of frustration in getting the children to learn Chinese or complete their work on time, and laughter at some of the creative strategies shared by other mothers. When the four small groups were done in consolidating their strategies, they met as a large group to further refine the strategies into practical steps.
The strategies would be put into a document and shared via SAPTA’s website soon.
The session ended with a breakfast, where the mothers were able to socialise and discover more about each other and make new friends.
Thus fulfilling the aim of the Junior Saints Mums meetings: that Motherhood is a journey of friends.
The Beginning of Term Service held today was a miracle, considering how the Northeast Monsoon brought persistent rain just the day before, and how the rain in Changi this morning was held away from the skies over Potong Pasir, so that the outdoor service for St Andrew’s Junior and Secondary School could be conducted in cool, dry conditions.
Parents, Alumni, Staff and Boys were all looking forward to the familiar reminder of yet another fresh year–
And in singing the School Hymn, remembering:
Before us and beside us,
Still holden by Thy hand,
A cloud of unseen witness,
Our elder comrades stand;
One family unbroken,
We join with one acclaim;
One heart, one voice uplifting
To glorify Thy Name.
For more pictures and video about the service, check out our Facebook page.
After the Beginning of Term Service, the parents of the Secondary School boys were hosted to a breakfast, while the parents of P1 boys attended a talk by SAPTA on how to support our sons in primary one.
SAPTA’s Dads Coffee Club organised a Kukup Trip on 10-11 November 2017 for our dads and sons to bond over a range of fun activities.
Over the two days, the dads and their sons bonded over meals, fishing activities, games, and even a hike.
Benjamin Tan, who was there with his dad, John, said, “The whole trip was awesome as I get to do a lot of stuff with my dad like fishing, playing pool, ebiking and visiting fish farm!”
John felt that it was a purposeful 2-day-2-night trip, where he got to spend some quality time with Benjamin and get to know him better. “It also allowed me to do activities which I don’t normally do with him. Great trip!” he quipped.
Tan Yan Kit, dad to Yuan Zong, shared that his teenager found the trip very fruitful because he was able to experience new things like playing pool, fishing and visiting a kelong. Yuan Zong wanted even more father-son bonding activities for the next trip!
If you’re interested to find out more about our Dads Coffee Club programme, do leave your contact with us and we’ll get back to you as soon as possible.
Here’s an article that links data and the science of Fatherhood in impacting their kids.
SAPTA received a token of appreciation from St Andrew’s Junior School on 13 November 2017 for partnership with the school.
We are glad to receive this award and will continue to do our best in serving our school community.
UP AND ON!